Rest in peace

My mother in law passed away on 11aug..

she was hit with brain stroke in late dec 2009. In hospital (icu + normal ward) for almost 2.5mths before transferring to nursing home. She never regain her memory. After her stroke, she become bedbound, vegetable and lost almost 95% of her memory. We visited her almost everyday in the hospital / nursing home.

When we were back from our honeymoon on 12jul night, bui on his mobile and got a call from NUH saying MIL got some infection and had to be admitted.

13Jul, we went to see her during lunch time and she was in isolated ward. Doc came to explained to us on her condition. She got a ear infection and needed treatment. We thot just normal treatment for a week but 2days later, doc told us that the ear infection was quite bad and needed her to be on 6weeks treatment of antibotics but then treatment to be done at community hospital instead of NUH itself.

We went to see social worker regarding this prob and was told community hospital charges are bout $2k a month and MIL place at nursing home will be taken out as she didnt return for more than 4weeks, nursing home will removed her and we need to re apply the home application.

Just before end of Jul, she was transfered to ST luke community hospital to get her treatment done. Her ear infection was beta but still antiobotics need to be given..

Me and bui are trying to sort out with social worker and pleading with them to allow home to take her again as nursing home is at cck central and is onli a few bus stop away from their home and its easier for FIL to visit her...

On 6aug evening, St luke called bui telling him tat MIL kidney isnt doing well and they will monitor if a need will rush her to NUH.

7aug noon, i did ask bui if hospital called and he say no. So we assume everything is back to normal for MIL. Who noes in the evening, they called and say quite bad need to rush MIL to hospital. we both are quite worried and hope all goes well for MIL.

08aug morni, had breakfast with bui after he off work and we headed to waterloo street guang yin temple to pray then to sengkang MA ZHU temple then headed to NUH to visit MIL.
Doc told us her condition is quite bad and is like anytime. Her kidney failed on her. Blood pressure is low and she not breathing on her own. Upon hearing wat the doc say, my tears flowed down non stop. BUi called his uncle and inform them bout MIL situation.

09aug morni, bui relatives was there. i didnt went as i was havign a flu and dun seem to be feeling well and rested at home which bui keep me updated on whichever situation.

10aug lunch time, we went to visit mil and she was tearing. her eye kept looking at bui.. I somehow sense something not rite but didnt reali go and think so much over it. At nite, her cousin called me at hospital saying the blood pressure and heart beat dun seem to be doing well and ask me how. to keep her claim, i told her she wil be alrite and if anything doc will sure called bui.

11aug morni, out for work earli and was sms with bui and we even say noon time wana go visit MIL but just when i was reaching office around 7+ hospital called me saying mIL was seriously ill and get us to rush down. I rang up bui immediately and just 10min after the 1st call, hospital called again and say she had gone to heaven. My heart almost pop out and i was tearing when in the cab. Immediately i called bui and break the news and he too breakdown. Upon reaching hospital, the staff had clean up MIL. she was lying down on hospital bed peacefully. I could see her peacefully expression, gone from all the pain she been thru the past 8mths. Both me and bui was crying so hard. Its just too hard for bui to accept it. BK came to meet us and help arraanged on the funeral stuff. Undertakers came to collect body at 9+ and we headed to coffin shop to arrange the rest of the stuff and etc.

5days wake and i didnt reali sleep much thru out as was there with bui and helping. Cox if he breakdown, FIL will breakdown too.

Jus minute before crem, bui cried so hard and the feeling reali make me feel losing a loved one is nv easy to accept. I can totally feel his pain... He is now left to take care of FIL and i am now his pillar which make me feel i got to be even stronger in order for BUi to stay strong..

*Rest in peace my dearest mother in law*